Nobody tells you how hard marriage can/will be. When you tell people you’re getting married they smile, hug you, congratulate you and say “you will be so happy together!”. In reality, they should do the previous and also tell you what it’s really going to be like. The truth is, somedays are harder than others. Somedays, you will be happy and in love. Somedays, you still love the person, but you wish they’d simply leave you alone for awhile.
Now I should clarify and say I have a pretty great marriage and a pretty great husband. We have similar interests and both of us adore our boys. We talk most things through, even the tough stuff, and try to work through it all. But that is not to say that we don’t disagree, argue or have a “tif” sometimes. It also goes without saying that somedays the cynical side of my husband drives me crazy and his cocky comments do hurt my feelings on occasion. The incredible intellect my husband has is astounding, but somedays I want him to “dumb it down” a little, which he says he won’t do, so I am left to secretly roll my eyes at the large words he uses to describe simple things.
In turn, I know there are days where my “carefree” attitude drives him crazy and my obliviousness for organization makes him want to strangle me. He loves my cooking, but can’t stand the mess I make while doing it and he hates how I turn into a 13 year-old girl and pout when I’m mad.
These things make marriage hard, but it’s also what makes it real, as well. It’s having bad days that make the good ones even better. I’m sure we will continue to drive each other crazy and have our occasional arguments, but at the end of the day there is no one else we’d rather be with. And that my friends is what real marriage is all about!
Archive | February, 2012
